Leadership Advice One Snippet at a Time

Those who have worked with and for me over the years know that I insert colloquialisms often into my speech (aka “folksy analogies” or something like that). Some get adopted by others too, which is kind of fun for me to hear them use my phrases back at me at times. I do this to explain my perspective on something, or to invoke certain imagery, be humorous or try to project my displeasure about something that I want to soften the tone or impact on the receiver’s end.

While I did these before I met him, the absolute King of Colloquialism that I’ve worked with/for in my career is Tom Thomas, a retired two-star general who I grew close to and worked directly for twice in my military career. When he moved from our first assignment together I gave him a notebook with his most common phrases as gift, where this lexicon listed the word or phrases, defined them, and used them in context for the reader. It was fun for the staff and for him and we went over the whole book together and laughed our asses off about some of our favorites. Some are pretty profane or visceral, by intent, so I won’t share the list here. Sorry.

Anyway, as I reflect on my personal sayings there are some leadership nuggets in many of them, and I think I’d like to share them. Some of my team have encouraged me to do more of passing on thoughts from my experience in leadership roles and I can’t think of a much better approach than here on my Daring Doofus blog. I hope you can get leadership advice that helps your growth, and maybe we can even participate in a discussion online about some of my postings. Or maybe not, but I do hope you can glean lessons for yourself by whatever I post here.

Personal Performance Part 1

I need to confess that I have an issue with people not owning their behaviors and emotions. This angst amps up if we are talking about opportunities and a person’s perspective on their work. We all have similar opportunities. We all have assigned duties or work functions we must do.

When I encounter folks on the extreme end of this lack of ownership I often want to tell them out loud: you can’t expect me to care more about your performance than you do! Seriously, there are people who act like their leaders need to be more on top of how *they* do their work. This is a puzzler to me because I don’t do my work expecting to have my leadership provide meaning for me. Put another way…I don’t need motivation to do my job as well as I can. I do so because I don’t want to let myself down, not anyone external to me.

Yet, there are many who do exactly that. And in acts of brazenness sometimes even complain that if only they were led better they would do better. Or, “nobody told me I had to…” sorts of things. At my organization if you are a Director and higher if you were to have the courage to tell me that I’d clap back at saying you aren’t earning your title. A director should know how they fit into the bigger picture, should not need any push from their supervisor. Still, some do and it’s actually a big negative for me at least.

Reboot 2020

I’m trying to pick up some of my hobbies that I’ve let atrophy or just haven’t touched in a while. I need to find a balance between a hobby that is very rewarding and yet doesn’t entail too much “work” to do. It’s a fine line, where I like to watch stuff on Netflix but that’s kind of a time-filler more than a hobby. I don’t want to get super into fitness because I think there is a vanity that develops and I’m not into that. Woodworking is good, but I need to have a set of projects lined up, and that takes some thought and *cooler weather*. I also like cooking, grilling and BBQing but it becomes problematic for the results with just two of us.

One hobby I for sure want to get geared back up for is fishing here locally in the Roseburg area. This will take some effort, learning places and techniques. My first step is to refresh my gear with new line and make sure I have a stock of the right tackle.

I’m also reengaging in some of the stories I have in the back of my head. I think it’s a sign when you can’t let go of a story idea, and if it can be brought out to where *I’m* happy with the results then it will be worth it. I purchased a program called Scrivener that is wonderful for helping package the writing process. It also has templates the Scrivener community has developed. But none of that works if I can’t find a way to tell the story that’s in my head.

I will post more later…

Project- aged wood basketball backboard

Doing this for a friend of Shelley and I. Her son loves basketball and she saw an “old barn wood” hoop and backboard. (you can find examples on Pinterest)

I haven’t done any distressed wood sorts of projects yet, and like to expand my skills when I can.

Our friend picked the middle variation of wood aging, which involves black tea, fine steel wool absorbed into white vinegar. You paint the tea on, and it doesn’t show much. Wait until it dries then do the mixture of steel wool vinegar.

The distressing part is easy, and quite therapeutic ðŸĪŠ

The second photo is step 1 with the tea applied.

Cuts are done

This year I am making gifts for senior staff at the Center as an appreciation for all their hard work the past year. Many of them play games, so I am making simple domino holders.

There will need some sanding but I am not sure if I will stain them. The wood is oak and looks pretty nice already. I like the heft of each holder, and they should stand up to time better than my first batch I did in Pine.

Quick craft project

Needed more domino holders. Easy peasy

It’s so much easier to do some things as a woodworker when you have a nice shop setup. Thanks Dad, Mom, and Greg! But most of all, thank you to my best friend and lovely wife Shelley for supporting me to have hobbies and space to do them in. I love you 🐚 🛎!